Showing posts with label child abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label child abuse. Show all posts

Monday, December 13, 2010

Suicide and a Two-Year Old

12.13.2010

It broke my heart today to read in the papers that Bernie Madoff’s son hanged himself in his home while his two-year old son was napping. Apparently his wife knew something was very wrong after receiving ominous texts from him and contacted authorities to check on him. They were, obviously, too late, he was already dead when they found him.

It’s not clear whether his son was napping when the authorities came in because, I think, I read one account that he was playing nearby and then I read another account that he was napping, but whatever the truth may be, to do that to your child is abysmal. I know the likelihood of him not remembering any details is high, but there is a strong chance that he’ll grow up thinking that maybe his father’s death had something to do with him.

I understand suicide tendencies well and I also understand that when you remove yourself from the situation and look back, you realize what a selfish act it is. Obviously Bernie Madoff’s son had made up his mind to kill himself but what he should’ve done is waited to be alone. His selfishness will bruise his son and forever keep a hole in the family.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Five Children Kept Hidden

11.28.2010

I came across an article today on Yahoo! that made me shake my head and proves, once again, that any idiot can have kids. And not just one kid but five.[1]

A couple was found in Pennsylvania hiding their five children. What makes this story amazing is that they weren’t living in an isolated part of town and, yet, still managed to keep their kids away from people. They had neighbors who, for 13 years, never knew they had a child let alone five. (Their eldest is 13; the youngest is 2.) Apparently authorities were tipped off several times that there was child neglect happening but the father was consistently uncooperative and, thanks to bureaucracy, it took this long to cut through the red tape and get a warrant (though a family member’s urging for action helped greatly once seeing the condition in which the kids were kept.)

The family was living in disgusting conditions with no water, heat or other utilities. No heat? In Pennsylvania?! I’m sure the parents will be found to be mentally unstable.

I know that we can’t start implementing restrictions on who can or can’t have children. But I don’t understand why those people who really shouldn’t be having kids keep having them. One child can be considered an accident, I guess. But why do these people keep having one after the other? There are now 5 more souls on this Earth who are stripped of anything and everything they know and have to start over. Their “old world,” of course, was abusive but tell that to a little kid who only wants his/her mom. These kids are now in foster homes probably separated from their siblings, scared and confused. Why do people do this? Why?

Monday, November 8, 2010

Do You Get Involved?

11.08.2010

(Disclaimer: The following has not happened to me. It’s purely for discussion’s sake.)

We all know that kids say the darndest things and, I have found, that kids under 5 tend to speak whatever’s on their mind without much regard to the consequences. It’s their honesty that I find so special because as we get older we learn to hold back by taking all variables into consideration (hurting someone’s feelings, telling the truth might get someone in trouble, not wanting to explain things, etc). But, about the element of truth, sometimes kids say something that, I think, we wouldn’t really know how to react to. Well, let me speak for myself because I’m usually the clueless one and am curious to hear from parents since this is something, I assume, parents would know how to deal with (and I say that because they're exposed to kids more than I).

If a child tells you that someone at home is getting abused, do you get involved? Does the situation change if a kid you don’t know happens to tell you that? In other words, do you get involved only if you know the kid?

Friday, September 17, 2010

Child Sex Trafficking

09.15.2010

I have to admit that today is actually the 17th. My schedule the past few days hasn’t allowed me to be home 12-15 hours per day but, I knew on this day’s morning while at the gym, that I wanted to respond to a report on CNN that I saw about Craigslist.

I knew that adult services were advertised on Craigslist and though I may not like it, as long as adults are willingly and knowingly engaging in these services, I don’t have enough of a problem to be enraged. (I have my opinions about prostitution and the issues it brings up but this isn’t the time or place.) What I do have a problem with is Craigslist allowing for advertising for child trafficking. This is unforgivable.

CNN reported on a woman whose 12-year old girl was abducted in April on her way to school and by sheer chance and conversation with friends, neighbors and authority, she found her daughter on Craigslist, in a wig and a compromised position being sold for sex. And there was nothing she could do other than call the authorities and try to nail the pimp. Luckily, they did but it took months. Even though mother and daughter are reunited, the damage is done. This girl will be in therapy for the rest of her life.

I can’t even begin to explain how angry this makes me. And it’s not just the child trafficking; let’s put that aside for a moment. Where the hell do Craiglslist’s execs get off by allowing for this kind of advertising to take place? Where the fuck are their morals? Has money become that much of a priority, that much of a necessity to allow for little girls to be advertised for sex? How does whoever green lit those ads sleep at night? How do those execs go home to their families and be proud of the decisions they made that day? How can they look into any child’s eyes, much less their own if they have them, and feel good about knowing that they allowed for someone’s daughter to be exposed publicly and sold so that some disgusting, poor excuse for a human being can make money?

We pay for this, people. We all pay for this because that girl’s essence is ruined and if she doesn’t get proper help, she will turn to a life of drugs and maybe even go back to prostitution because that’s what she’s told she’s worthy of. If she does get proper help and pulls through, think about all the other girls who don’t and turn to a life of crime and/or drugs. These decisions affect us societally, financially, and environmentally, and it turns my stomach.

p.s. Here’s some more info on this topic: http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/node/14087

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Science and Morality

08.25.2010

Two scientists, Dr. James L. Sherley and Theresa Deisher, may win their case against the Department of Health and Human Services because they are morally opposed to stem cell research. It is because of them that there is a current injunction on federal funding for research involving human embryonic stem cells.[1]

What about being morally opposed to scientists creating the atomic bomb that killed thousands of Japanese? Or bombs that kill Iraqi civilians? Or Afghanis?

What about being morally opposed to scientists creating methods to alter cells genetically so that we can engineer an ideal baby?

What about being morally opposed to the hunger of thousands of children already born and living in our own backyard? Or being morally opposed to thousands of children already born who die from neglect and physical abuse at the hands of their supposed caretakers?

My father-in-law has Parkinson’s disease. Stem cell research is one of the biggest hopes we have in finding a cure not just for that disease but also for MS and Huntington’s disease, among others. Is the plan to privatize this research? If so, who's paying for it? We're all going to end up paying for it in some other way; higher health care costs, anyone?

It’s so frustrating to me how much people are willing to fight (and kill) for the possibility of someone else's baby or just for the mere idea of a baby and yet, look away so easily at the death, destruction, and neglect that goes on around us on a daily basis. They may give a voice to the “unborn” but what about those children who already walk, already talk, and already feel? What about those children who already understand from the actions of adults around them that they are not wanted? What about those children…?


[1] Maugh II, Thomas H. “The Pair Behind the Stem Cell Suit,” Los Angeles Times, Wednesday, August 25, 2010, A10 and Kaplan, Karen, “Scientists Rush to Use or Redirect Stem Cell Funds,” Los Angeles, Times, Wednesday, August 25, 2010, A10.

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Republicans and Democrats: Abuse at Hand

05.18.2010

Republicans focus on the individual and hold an attitude of “to each his own.” There’s no room for sharing and the desire to make money partners with the belief that one should keep the money for him/herself. As a result of this, Republicans are geniuses at organizing and monitoring (their) money. On the flipside of that, you have Democrats who believe in sharing and hold an attitude that “it’s our duty to help.” And when it comes to money, Democrats suck at organizing and monitoring it.

Republicans have also aligned themselves with fringes of society who insist on controlling what goes on in people’s homes when it is convenient for them: for example, gay marriage and abortion. On these points, Democrats believe government should have no say. Republicans want all the public services that government should provide: fire departments, good public schools, and a police department. But they don’t want to pay for it (so they set up systems to make the poor pay for it). Democrats want the same things and don’t mind paying for it – but, let’s remember, they have no idea how to shuffle around the money correctly and so they contribute to the passage of rules, laws, incentives, etc. that, in turn, make the poor pay for the roads, schools and PD. Thus, two different systems and structures that come to the same result.

As this ridiculous song and dance plays out between the two parties, we have serious issues bubbling within society that no one is paying attention to. In Sunday’s Los Angeles Times, California Section, front page, a headline reads: Child Abuse Tips Slow to Be Resolved. As government fights and makes cuts to social programs (and I agree that there are frivolous ones), children are still getting abused and no one is taking the proper steps to ensure that these children are taken care of. Is it because the children aren’t our children? Is it because our hard-earned dollar shouldn’t go towards someone else’s child? Is it that fundraising for the next campaign with slogans like “Children are Our Future” is more important than to actually take steps to follow through on the slogan? Is it because that so much abuse occurs in the lower-income bracket that “these” children don’t matter?

I was once a staunch Republican. eagerly awaiting to vote in my first presidential election in 1996. I also headed the call of my Catholic education where I was taught that helping those less fortunate (like Jesus did) is actually a benefit to myself if not for any reason but to feel good. Eventually the skeleton of what Republicans stood for and focused on began to conflict with my beliefs. The problem is that I don’t see any party really helping anyone but themselves and, despite now belonging to the Green Party for close to 10 years, the US has no place for 3rd party voices.

Regardless of one’s political aspirations, I don’t understand why it’s so easy to so passionately fight for the protection of an unborn fetus under the auspices of “protecting children” but then completely forget about the child once he/she is born. Both Democrats and Republicans only pretend to care. Republicans claim to care on the fetus level and Democrats claim to care once the baby is born but both sides care mostly in pleasing the upper classes that will keep getting them elected. And those people will always have the money to hide their indiscretions. A child who must feel the pain of a hot iron, feel starvation, or suffer through the smacking around of a parent/guardian isn’t as important as making money. And that, my friends, has become the only thing that matters.